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Why “Fifty Shades” and similar books are bad renditions of the lifestyle


The abusive nature of the books has been picked apart enough- I believe that most everyone knows of this at this point. If not, look it up ANYWHERE.

What I want to talk on, is the typical relationship in this lifestyle. Is everyone the sub or little girl or pet to an extremely wealthy Dominant?

No. That’s a rare case, yet rarely do I see a story of “Girl meets boy, they aren’t all that rich, so when it’s discovered one of them is into BDSM, they have to figure out how to attain their needs.” 

BDSM can be expensive. The tools of the trade are a kind of “You get what you pay for” deal. If you fork over 13 dollars for a novelty crop, that piece is gonna break after a few sessions if you’re unlucky. You might try to save money by implementing play cuffs from the toy section in a store for real ones and those will break easily, too- due to the fact that 1, you’re an adult straining against toys for kids 2, they’re cheaply put together for the reason that no one aims for BDSM to be their purpose. 

Forgo the cuffs, tie your partner down with robe ties. When you finally have the money to splurge a bit, you might aim for the bargain area so you can make that money last a little longer. 

The outfits in some situations can cost a pretty penny too. 

I want to see more books on realistic relationship portrayal of the lifestyle. I want to see more books on the average kinksters getting SO FUCKING EXCITED because they have enough money for actual tools of the trade. I want to see scenes where there is that disappointing moment where a piece you paid a bit for was nothing to really talk about. I want to see a woman or man looking at fetish sites for hours, pinning after a tail plug and saving up for it and getting it in the mail. 

I want to see accurate after-care, or at least some open dialogue on it.

I want to see them researching all there is to know on these subjects, I want them searching to find out where they fit in all of this. I want the good with the bad. Don’t romanticize the lifestyle to just get a few more bucks when your books are in the harlequin section of the bookstore. I don’t mind if that shitstack of books sticks around even, AS LONG AS THERE IS REAL REPRESENTATION, TOO, to the SAME DEGREE as the romanticized versions. I want Kinkster memoirs right next to Fifty Shades. 

I want representation for more than just the “Wealthy Dom”. 

I’m going to go have a nice cup of tea now. GOOD DAY.


Anonymous asked:

What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?




50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.

This ^^^ just ALL OF THIS ^^^

i have tried to explain this a million times, THIS.









I have never thought about it in this context

that’s actually really, really creepy.

I… fuck.

Yeah, basically.

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

Well shit

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triple layer brownie cake / cherry bliss brownie / chocolate truffle layer cake / snickers peanut butter brownie ice cream cake / surprise inside ice cream balls / chocolate filled cream puffs / brownie cookies / chocolate snickers cake / chocolate lasagna / double chocolate brownies

Give me now pls

Why have I not reblogged this yet?! Gotta try these recipes later.

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I just fell over

I swear no one ever tags the food porn

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CNN actually researched how much it would cost to go to Hogwarts


How exactly did they “research” this? Looks like they just pulled a bunch of random figures out of their butts.

It’s stated in the books that tuition to Hogwarts is “free for all children in Britain”. I don’t know why they thought it wouldn’t be - it’s a British high school, not a college. So there, you just saved yourself $42,024.

In Chamber of Secrets, Mrs. Weasley emptied her entire bank account which contained only two galleons [£10 / US$20] and she managed to buy all five children’s entire set of books and potion ingredients with this, as well as Ginny’s robes, hat, clock, cauldron, and wand!!! And we know she bought all of these as she mentioned having to buy them. The fact that she bought all of these with only £10 pretty much proves how absolutely ridiculous CNNs estimation is.

If you want more proof, the actual cost of Harry’s want is far over estimated here, and the exact price in both pounds as US dollars can easily be found right within the books! Harry’s wand is bought for seven galleons, a galleon being worth about five pounds [mentioned by JK Rowling in an interview and in FBAWTFT/QTTA] means that his wand was £35, or US$53. So there’s some straight-out-of-the-books-and-word-of-god proof that the figures CNN have given are way off the mark. Not to mention the fact that even if you don’t go to Hogwarts, as a magical human you’re gonna have to buy a wand anyway if you want to do magic.

As for the school books, I’ve done an approximation based on various prices given through-out the books and on Pottermore. While these prices involve a substantial amount of guess-work, I think you’ll agree that my calculation is far more accurate than CNNs:

The Standard book of Spells costs one sickle [29p / US59c]. On the back of my comic relief copy of Fantastic Beasts and Where To Find Them it says it costs fourteen sickles [£4.60 / US$8.26]. One Pottermore, all text books are one galleon [£4.97  / US$10.17] - however Pottermore currency only uses galleons so it’s likely they have rounded off. Lockhart’s books, the most expensive in the series, are five galleons on Pottermore meaning that the exchange rate in the books puts them around two galleons and fourteen sickles [£14.60 / US$20.80]. If we put a high average on this and assume that all textbooks are approximately a galleon [they are likely much less], and that each year has around seven required reading books, the entire price for seven years worth of books would be forty-nine galleons, which equals approximately £243, or US$367 - and remember, this is the maximum estimated price for the textbooks.

For the minimum, we need to consider that the Weasleys get a lot of things second hand, with Ginny’s copy of A Begginers Guide To Transfiguration being described as “a very old, very battered copy” - likely no more than five sickles. If they got all their books around that price, it would cost them no more than £14 / US$21 for the entire seven years worth! So school books, far from being US$516, fall somewhere between US$14 and US$367 for the entire seven years at Hogwarts.

Next we have robe, glove, cloak, and hat prices - these are never mentioned in the books or on Pottermore, so I can’t account for that. However I seriously doubt it’s as a high as they’ve got here. Considering books in the wizarding world are generally much cheaper than in the muggle world, I think it’s fairly safe to assume that clothing is as well. Likely a maximum of a galleon for a single set of robes.

They’ve also forgotten a huge number of things - cauldrons, potion ingredients, scales, and star charts, among others.

So yeah, I really don’t know where they came up with these figures. It looks like some guy just wanted to make a story about how expensive Hogwarts would be and put a bunch of American college figures together and thought “yeah, this looks good.”

The Harry Potter fandom doesn’t fuck around

Get your shit together CNN and stick to current events


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